Raising children with a significant age difference between them can be tough. As my daughters Jordyn (11) and Kenzie (2), are nearly 10 years apart, I’ve witnessed firsthand the difficulties in being able to entertain them, especially simultaneously. Here are a few tips that helped make planning activities with my girls, a lot easier.
1. Help the oldest to understand the importance of sharing recreational activities
Jordyn sometimes gets frustrated when we’re doing something that’s primarily focused younger children. I try to help her understand that because they are so far apart in age, their abilities and interest vary greatly. It’s unlikely that we will always find an activity that will please them both, so to be impartial we must alternate the things that we decide to do regularly.
2. Have your oldest help to decide the activity
It works when Jordyn helps me decide what we’ll do for fun. This way, she is less likely to bicker about where we decide to go. Allowing her to give input also gives her a sense of inclusiveness, while at the same time allowing her to pick an activity she will also enjoy.
3. Where possible, allow them time with friends
Wherever possible, I also like to set up play dates where Jordyn can spend the day with her friends instead of hanging out with babies and old folks (me and her dad, lol). Or, I might even choose to bring one of her friends along with us instead. Whenever someone her age is around, Jordyn seems to have a great time regardless of what the venue is. Like most two-year-olds, Kenzie will make a playground out of anywhere (literally). It is also very easy for toddlers to develop new skills in any environment, so I predominantly place my focus Jordyn and her interests at the time.
Split duties between parents
When all else fails, I would take one of my girls, while their dad takes the other. It’s no harm in spending quality time with your children separately; it’s actually healthy to do so! You might find that you are less stressed, and a lot more attentive in doing this.
When trying to sort out your family outings, keep in mind the children you must entertain. Try to find family-oriented venues that are equipped to tackle the interests of any age. For us, places such as Dave and Busters, Beach Boardwalks (with rides) and swimming pools, work out fine!
How do you entertain your children of a different age or gender?
