Why Your Little One May Find It Hard to Stop Breastfeeding & Tips on Weaning

Breastfeeding is a beautiful, bonding experience—but what happens when it’s time to stop and your baby just isn’t ready? If you’re finding it hard to wean your little one, you’re not alone. Many infants (and toddlers) struggle with the transition away from breastfeeding, and it’s often tied to more than just food.

I, for the first time ever, have been able to breastfeed from day 1! I was so happy to finally be able to nurse my sun, because with my girls, I just didn’t have to strength to stick to it. The pain, and the long hours of constant feeding were all just too much to bear. But, here we are. Still going strong a year later.

My son, Chase, just turned one, but has yet to show any interest in laying off the boobies. There are even times he’ll completely reject a bottle or cup, so no, pumping wouldn’t help in this case. I get tired and frustrated a lot of times, because, let’s face it — breastfeeding, although wonderful, can be exhausting. I’ve taken advice from other moms and did some research of my own, and this is what I’ve learned…

1. Breastfeeding = Comfort and Security

For babies, breastfeeding isn’t just about nutrition—it’s about feeling safe, loved, and comforted. It’s a warm, familiar routine that often helps them fall asleep, calm down when upset, or feel reassured during times of change. Giving that up can feel like a huge loss.

2. They May Not Be Ready Developmentally

Some babies are simply not developmentally ready to wean when parents begin the process. Readiness can vary widely—what works for one child at 12 months might not work for another until 18 months or later. That’s perfectly normal.

Babies with more sensitive or cautious personalities might also have a harder time letting go of routines and transitions in general, including breastfeeding.

Ever have a kid try to ‘whip a nip’ out at random places in public? — Yea, I have 😫

3. They Still Crave the Nutrition (and Nurture)

Even when babies start eating solids, breast milk remains a rich source of nutrition, especially in the first year. Beyond that, some toddlers still seek out nursing for comfort, hydration, and closeness—especially during teething, illness, or growth spurts.

4. Weaning May Feel Abrupt

Ok, so I’ve been told so many times, that I can’t just go ‘cold-turkey’ on him. Because, if weaning happens suddenly or during a stressful time (like a move, the birth of a sibling, or a sleep regression), he may resist the change even more. Babies thrive on consistency, so big changes can make them cling more tightly to familiar routines—like breastfeeding. Unfortunately 😒. So it’s in everyone’s best interest to take this whole weaning thing slow and steady.

5. You Might Be Sending Mixed Signals (and That’s Okay!)

Let’s be real: weaning can be emotional for parents, too. I know for a fact that I’m not consistent, because though I’m ready to stop completely, the thought of it makes me kind of sad — This is literally the last time I’ll ever do it.

Breastfeeding is one of the purest bonding experiences ever! So if you’re feeling unsure or emotional about the transition, your baby may pick up on that energy and resist letting go. That doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong—it’s just part of the bond between mother and child.

I tell myself everyday that I’m going to take away one feeding and give him a cup instead — “Ok, tonight’s the night. I’m NOT breastfeeding him!”— Yea right! I fail miserably most of the time 🙃. If you’re anything like me, and need a few tricks to get this transition going, I got you covered.

So, What Can Help?

If your baby is having a hard time weaning, here are a few gentle strategies:

🍼 Take it slow: Drop one feeding at a time, starting with the least important one (usually not bedtime or early morning).

🤱🏽 Replace with connection: Offer extra cuddles, stories, or songs during former nursing times.

🍼 Create new routines: Swap breastfeeding with another comforting ritual, like rocking or singing. Be consistent: Gently hold your boundaries while offering comfort in other ways.

🤱🏽 Give grace: Some days will be easier than others—and that’s okay.

🤝🏾 Share Responsibilities: If possible, try sharing some of feeding times with a spouse, or anyone who can assist you during those difficult feeding times. I’ve learned, that if your child doesn’t have to be solely used to you feeding with you, they’ll get used to having an alternative. And for us, that could mean less breastfeeding ☺️.

The Bottom Line

Every baby is different, and there’s no “right” timeline for weaning. Some children transition quickly and easily, while others need a little more time and support. Trust your instincts, meet your baby where they are, and know that this phase—like all the others—won’t last forever.

If you’re in the thick of it right now, no worries. You’ve got this and we’re in it together!

How have successfully weaned your child, or what strategies are you trying now?

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TTYL,

LEXI 💋